A bride was heavily criticized after expressing her frustrations over her maid of honor’s tattooed arms and requesting that she cover her body art with a sleeved dress.
“Can y’all tell me if I’m acting crazy?” the woman asked in a message that was later reposted on the Facebook group That’s it, I’m wedding shaming. “So my maid of honor (older sister) just got super dark tattoo sleeves done, and I asked her to get a sleeved bridesmaid dress.
“She says that’s stupid and she should be able to get whatever dress she wants in that color. And my mom told me that it’s just a part of who she is and just to accept it and stop being so controlling.”
A bride was criticized for complaining about her maid of honor’s tattooed arms and requesting that she cover her body art with a sleeved dress
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“The only thing I asked was for her to get sleeves in her dress. I didn’t think it was that big of an ask.”
The woman then edited the post, clarifying that her older sister got the tattoos after she was asked to be the maid of honor.
Her sister won’t have a bad time wearing long sleeves during hot weather, the bride assured. “There’s lots of cute dresses in flowy sleeves in my color, so it wouldn’t make it super warm for her.”
“The only thing I asked was for her to get sleeves in her dress. I didn’t think it was that big of an ask,” the bride wrote
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Despite noting that people weren’t on board with her idea of asking her sister to cover up her inked arms, the bride remained firm in her decision. She even threatened to uninvite her sister over the disagreement.
“That’s fine. Y’all can call me crazy,” she commented. “If she can’t respect my one wish on my day then she obviously doesn’t respect our relationship and therefore doesn’t need to be at my wedding.”
Many people agreed that uninviting her sister just because she disagreed with an aesthetic decision was extreme.
“Brides pick up dresses for their girls all the time. I just don’t understand why it’s such a big deal,” she added
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“You obviously don’t respect her, let alone your relationship with her,” a Facebook user wrote. “Her tattoos are part of her and you are asking her and only her to wear sleeves to cover a part of herself. Do whatever you want but it’s crazy to strain your relationship with your MOH over this.
“Learn to pick your battles. This one is not worth it,” the commenter advised.
The woman continued to defend her point of view, responding, “It’s my day, and I shouldn’t have to do something I don’t want to do to spare someone’s feelings. Sorry not sorry. I will pick my battles on my day because it’s mine and not yours.”
Others defended the bride’s stance, suggesting she send alternative dress options to her sister
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“You sound unaccepting and ridiculous,” another person clapped back. “If you wanted all bridesmaids to wear sleeved dresses or if your bridal dress is sleeved, that would be different. You are singling her out and that’s not fair.”
A separate user weighed in on the discussion to share her experience. “My MOH has a lot of tattoos on her arms and chest, and I’d never ask her to wear a dress to cover them up because, as your mom said, it’s part of her.
“If you’re going to ask her to cover up, then I’d be making the same preference for your other bridesmaids.”
The bride then replied, “None of my other bridesmaids have tattoos.”
“My MOH has a lot of tattoos on her arms and chest, and I’d never ask her to wear a dress to cover them up because it’s part of her,” wrote a separate Facebook user
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Another user criticized the bride for “singling out” her sister with her “unaccepting” request
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Meanwhile, another group supported the woman’s decision to have things go her way on her wedding.
“I don’t think you’re acting crazy. I chose the dresses for my girls to avoid stuff I didn’t want,” wrote somebody else. As her mom had “so many tattoos,” she sent her suggestions of sleeved dresses she wanted her to wear, and she “didn’t think twice” before accepting.
“It’s my day, and I shouldn’t have to do something I don’t want to do to spare someone’s feelings,” the bride argued
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“Do whatever you want but it’s crazy to strain your relationship with your MOH over this. Learn to pick your battles,” someone else advised
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“She can wear a sleeved dress or she can sit in the audience like everyone else. It’s your day. Period,” an additional commentator said.
After reading the messages of support, the bride then reached a surprising conclusion, “I’m gonna have to assign dresses for everybody.”
“If someone asked me to do this, I’d just resign my position,” an additional user said
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