Friends are supposed to support each other through thick and thin, and one can’t imagine a worse scenario than a friend going through chemotherapy. So imagine the shock and horror to learn that your so-called “friend” has decided to take her worst bridezilla impulses out on you just because you gained some weight.
A woman dropped out of a wedding as a bridesmaid after her friend mocked her for her chemo-induced weight gain. Netizens rushed to support OP and she shared some more thoughts in the comments section.
Some brides go off the deep end when it comes to planning their “dream” wedding
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But one woman ended up throwing in the hat and refusing to be a bridesmaid after being insulted
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The stress of wedding planning can overwhelm some people
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While it might be cliche and somewhat rooted in misogynistic tendencies, there are brides out there who fully confirm the term bridezilla. To those who are unaware, a bridezilla is just the combination of a bride and Godzilla, the city-destroying lizard. This term is used, one way or another, to describe brides who go off the deep end when planning their own weddings.
There are a couple of explanations for this. Generally speaking, the bride is the one doing the majority of the wedding planning. This often ends up being a lot of work for just one person, which, naturally, turns into resentment and stress. They lash out at people, become unreasonably demanding and generally act in an unpleasant manner.
After all, some people have an idea of a dream wedding that they have been sitting on for years, or even decades. In their mind, it has to be perfect, because it’s a once in a lifetime event. So whenever reality doesn’t match up with the fantasy that they have been building in their heads, the reaction tends to be aggressive. This can lead to bizarre decisions that end up costing friendships and more.
There is no reason to treat a friend this way
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However, it’s important to note that none of this is an excuse to treat a friend the way this woman did. Even if OP wasn’t undergoing chemo, attacking her for her weight is unacceptable, rude and calls the entire relationship into question. On top of that, she makes some horrible remarks about the wedding photos being ruined. This is peak entitlement, where the bride has decided that her personal preferences have become more important than anything else in the world.
There is some chance that OP’s friend is simply very stressed and never learned to control her anger. This doesn’t excuse the behavior, but at least explains how she can treat a friend this way. Alternatively, she was never really OP’s friend and this event was simply the straw that broke the camel’s back.
Either way, OP is absolutely in the right to ditch the wedding. This is not an event worth enduring abuse over. After all, she will just “ruin” OP’s wedding pictures, so she is basically doing her a favor. All in all, this is a pretty classic example of how not to treat your friends. Regardless of OP’s excuses or if she apologizes later, it’s an ugly look.
OP focuses a bit on the price of the dress, but, in general, the bride knows what she is going through. At the end of the day, this is just not how a friend should act and the silver lining is that OP can go out and find new and better friends. Getting angry over the price of a dress over the feelings of a friend is sociopathic behavior. We’ve reached out to OP via Reddit for comment and will share new details and updates when she gets back to us.
OP shared some more information in the comments
The vast majority of users sided with OP and they chatted in the comments
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